Would you rather feel better or get better?
Now, this might sound like a silly question—of course, you’d rather get better than just feel better, right? But here’s the thing: we often do things every day that undermine our goal to actually get better. It’s almost New Year’s Day as I record this, and by the time you’re watching, it’ll already be the new year—a perfect time to reflect. What do you want to achieve this year? Right now, you’re here, and you want to get there. But the challenge is figuring out how to bridge that gap. Often, we sabotage ourselves. Whether it’s improving your golf game, your business, your relationships, or something else, we wonder, “Why am I not better yet?” And the truth is, if you want to feel better, you can blame others. But if you want to get better, you need to take responsibility.
Blaming yourself doesn’t mean beating yourself up. It’s about recognising that the most likely reason you haven’t improved is because you haven’t put in the time or effort. Take golf, for example (since I’m heading to the golf course soon). I could say, “Oh, I’m not great because I haven’t had the opportunities,” but the truth is, I haven’t taken lessons, practised consistently, or played with skilled players. The same applies to anything—business, relationships, or personal growth. So, ask yourself: do you want to feel better, or do you want to get better? The answer lies in where you’re pointing the finger. Is it someone else’s fault, or are you holding yourself accountable? The moment you start pointing the finger at yourself is the moment you start to grow. See you next time—bye!